+ 1 for David's suggestion of having the parting blade inverted in a rear toolpost.
In my book, it is essential for cutting tools to be mounted so that the cutting edge is on the centreline. NEVER above it.
In feed should be constant, but not heavy. For steel lubrication, soluble or neat cut oil ,should ,be applied. A steady drip feed should suffice. For Aluminium, the lubricant should be paraffin, (kerosene ), or WD40 or one of its clones.
Keep the cut free of swarf. Hopefully, you will be free of dig ins.
Although I have inserted tip parting tools, I very rarely use them, and rely on my aged, at least secondhand, 3/32" wide HSS parting blade. This has been used in my shop for some twenty years, and still has a lot of life left!
HTH
Howard