Thanks for the advice guys!
I felt the HV-4 wasn't going to work, so am glad to have it confirmed by people far more knowledgeable than myself.
I have been tempted by the 4" table on RDG (I've purchased from them several times and the service has always been outstanding), but the shipping to New Zealand on such a heavy item is just way too much.
I think I might try this one out https://www.machineryhouse.co.nz/R001. It's probably pretty budget quality, but for what I am hoping to achieve it will probably do fine.
MichaelG – I do have "Milling in the Lathe". Fantastic old book as you say, and I actually quite like the idea of the milling spindle for the vertical slide, but then you have to find some way to power it…
I don't want to over invest either as I definitely plan to get a mill at some point. It will help with the "significant other" if I produce some results and prove I'm serious about this hobby first though 
James