It would help if we were told the engine.
I’ve never heard of the problem Duncan suggests, probably because on a conventional slide-valve regulator with directly-acting rod the area of the end of the control rod is very small. Most of the force is directed downwards, by the steam acting on the top of the valve to hold it against the port face.
On a locomotive the valve itself is not normally in line with the rod, but is operated by a crank on the rod. That does leave the rod end exposed to full boiler-pressure but the “thrust bearing” is the inner face of the gland bush, not the seal itself.
Some locomotive regulators are controlled by a crank set athwart the dome, worked by an external rod, and that gives no axial force by the steam on the control itself.
In any case it should be fairly clear to determine from the drawings which way the lever is operated.