The "Standard" boiler kit from GLR is basically just a collection of materials and plans/manual for you to do all the work of making the actual boiler.
Size can depend on a number of things – steam usage, the bigger the capacity and speed of an engine the more steam it will consume. – Display or working, if just running the engine it won't use as much steam as if it were working powering something – Water Feed, some boilers that don't have provision for water feed will just run until empty (or preferably run out of fuel) so a larger boiler gives a longer run – Ease of use, a larger boiler can be easier to fire and get a consistant boiling rate.
Gas is probably the most practical, spirit or fuel tablets OK for small boilers, coal and charcoal a bit more fiddly but more like the real thing.
Once you have decided on a size the thickness of tube wall, endplates etc is usually governed by the pressure you intend to run the boiler at.
J