Unfortunately most miniature locomotive designs do seem made to prevent easy access to the smokebox fittings.
You could try making, or modifying, slotted-ring spanners or sockets shaped to suit.
I would suggest slacking the blower-ring connection, if that is rigid to the blast-pipe and not simply a “halo” that rests loosely around the nozzle. Then tighten both unions a little at a time so the boiler connection is tightened fully, first.
I can’t suggest how to deal with the superheater without knowing the design.
It may help if you can add a photo or a scan of the drawings. Identifying the loco type would also help, as others here may have built the same design.
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On a general point I admit not very helpful to you in this instance, some model engines have smokeboxes divided along their horizontal cntre-lines with a cover-strap on the inside of the joint, and discreet countersunk screws in the upper part. These might be obscured by handrails, or the ejector-pipe (even that is a dummy fitting.)
My 7.25″ g. loco is a heavily freelanced version of an already-freelance published design (it’s a doubled-up LBSC Juliet). I discovered in its previous ownership a long slot had been cut in the bottom of the smokebox to allow it to be slid forwards and off the loco completely without disturbing any pipes – though re-sealing the slot is not easy.