I'm trying to understand your concerns Bazyle but I must admit I'm finding it difficult.
My Dad flew in Lancaster Bombers during the war and didn't even get a medal for it. Fifty thousand of his comrades in B/C weren't so lucky and didn't survive the experience. Some of my parents friends were also killed in the Blitz, something I don't remember but which they clearly did.
When I was in Canada I went to see the Lancaster in Hamilton and saw where my Dad sat (as Flight Engineer). I cannot really imagine the guts it took to get into a plane fully loaded with explosives and fuel and then fly it through fighters and flak (he survived two tours).
I have German friends and whilst I've never discussed the war with them, I have to assume that their fathers probably also fought for their country. I am also pretty sure that they are just as proud of their fathers as I am of mine. Perhaps some of their family were also killed or injured. If so, that's a great shame but many died on both sides.
So whilst we certainly shouldn't glorify war, we most certainly shouldn't forget what happened either – nor the sacrifices made. Many brave men and women fought (and died) on both sides. This is unfortunate but true.
I'm sorry if this is off-topic – but there we go – a nerve was tweaked..
Regards,
IanT.
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