I agree with others who advocate using the fingers of both hands on the wheel rather than the handles. I actually use this method on the cross-slide as well. And on the leadscrew when I can't be bothered with engaging self-act, eg on a short section, or where there might be potential for an unfortunate collision.
On my lathe, I have discovered that the tightness of the 4-way tool post clamp can significantly affect the topslide. Too tight and the topslide becomes very stiff to move. Obviously there is some flexibility on my lathe causing this, but with the toolpost clamp correctly adjusted, it isn't a problem.
Another idea is to use a HSS tool with a slightly rounded cutting point.
Cutting in the reverse direction is, I believe, a combination of the above (HSS) idea and a blunt tip, it being sharper in the "wrong" direction.
Finally, I always use paraffin on aluminium for finishing cuts, especially as I have a quantity of electrical grade, ie almost pure, aluminium. For roughing, I don't bother too much with the paraffin, but using it I can get a very smooth finish. The downside is that it's smelly!
Regards,
Peter G. Shaw