Bill, this is quite a common problem…..
have the same thing on my Bridgeport and Myford VMF mill's…
on the Bridgeport use a low gear and shock the collet spanner with my hand…..
simmilar on the VMF but have to use a spanner on the quill…..
BUT u dont need to tighten the collet nut very tight in the first place…..
just a good nip is all u need………
there are all kinds'a mod to use air guns and drill drivers to Auto / ease the change-over of tooling
but I don't need a production problem solver…..
for me using these machines is for pleasure, NOT a race…..
can't explain a good nip, but use the spanner on the draw bar nut and then give the collet ring a good nip…..
practice will help….
I've been undoing nuts and bolts all my life and can't explain the feel…..
unless ur hogging metal off on the mill the cutter will not come loose anyway…..regardless of what others may say…
never happened to me in my lifetime….and sometimes I'm machining on the edge of what should be OK….hahaha…
this is providing the cutter and the collet chuck it's free of oil and metal swarf….
I always use an airline to clean the chuck before use and cutter swap over….
if u have an old cutter u could mount it in the collet holder and try to turn it with pipe pliers to gauge how tight u need the ring nut to be……
wish I was local to show u how I do it…..sorry…….