Hi windy, dont know where you are located, but you could try this company here .
They manufacture friction modified oils, some of which have very unusual characteristics
such as surface adhesion etc. ( I have no association with this company, other than I built
their blending plant years ago) Will PM you with a contact there.
With the speeds you are running at, lobe/follower contact pressures will be extremely high
at impact, without seeing the scuffing marks or the cam/follower profiles, it is difficult to pass
my opinion on your problem.
My only suggestion is to closely examine cam and follower with a good microscope to try
and establish what is happening, ie surface cracks, localised hot spots, or contamination,
causing the scuffing.
There are some very knowledgable members here who know a lot more about this subject
than me and may also offer suggestions
my 2c.
Dave